How to handle dating
Dating is not easy under the best of circumstances. For those of us who don’t really want to go out a meet new people…is challenging. And will all the advice out there it can get more confusing. Here are my 2 tips of what not to do and 2 of what to do.
Do Not do:
Just go to as many date. This idea that its all a numbers game is the fast track to burnout for us introverts. This gives us no space to really get to know someone and feels like speed dating everyday.
Say yes it everything. That’s a hell no. I’m not going to say yes to just any guy or to doing something I really don’t want to do. Being accommodating only goes so far. To me its the same as going to a cat cafe even though I’m allergic to them. Don’t let FOMO dictate your dating schedule.
2 things you can do
You are allowed to cancel when you’ve reached your limit. This doesn’t only go for introverts. If you had a crazy busy day and you can hardly think straight when you get home, then you will not be able to be on a date and pay attention. Just be honest about why you are cancelling and don’t wait until the last minute.
be direct about who you are and your likes. In the beginning highlight your quirks, but don’t throw it in their face. Think about it as building a friendship that you hope turns into more. But make sure your dealbreakers gets said pretty early on.
I have no problem if someone loves sports, just don’t expect me to care. Go ahead and go to a game with your friends, I’ll just stay home and read.
Of course there are a lot of other things to think about when it comes to dating. But these are some good tips to get started with and build on after. Let me know some of your favorites.