How To Keep Us In Conversations

Not gonna lie, us introverts can check out of conversations a lot. We can just get lost in our own heads or just get bored. But there are some things you can do and us all to keep us engaged.

Stay on Topic

We are easily distracted as it is. You will lose me real quick if you take too many detours. Nothing wrong with taking a quick tangent if it’s an important point or funny, but if you are all over the place I will check out.

Have a Wingman

Have a friend with to keep you in. Works great if they are extroverted because they keep you in by just laughing with you or interacting with you and the person talking.

Ask Plenty Of Questions

This goes for everyone. Questions are important to show that you are listening and are engaged. They are easier to think of in the moment for me to actually say something.

Slow Down

When we are uncomfortable or nervous we can talk fast. Which our little brains may not be able to keep up with. And if we go too fast we have less to say. Slowing down lets us process more to be able to speak more and understand more what others are saying.

Allow Space and Silence

This goes with the above point. Too many people try to fill the quiet too soon. People need a second to breathe, on all ends. We can also give people time to say something if they want. Or it can give the signal that the topic is done.