Learn How To Express Your Emotions

It’s a minefield out there with emotions. Trying to handle them and make sure we process and express them right. But then having them out in the world is a whole nother problem. Even with the people who love and care about us can have problems figuring it out. Let alone some who are in need of more healing. But there are steps you can do to be better at expressing your emotions so others can understand.

Take Time To Learn Them

When we are younger it can take some time to figure out what we are feeling. With things being new, plus all the charged ideas about what is a “right” or “wrong” emotion. No emotion is bad, only what you do with it can be bad. Each thing you feel is telling you something. Jealousy and anger or not bad and you are not a bad person for feeling them.

Sometimes the feeling may not feel right. Not because it’s wrong but because it’s trying to tell you something. With jealousy, it may be saying that you want to carefree life someone has or the security of their job. Or with anger, you are also feeling disrespected by how someone is treating you. What you do with the emotion is to feel it all and learn from them.

“I Feel” not “I Feel That..”

When talking to others sometimes you need to be a little careful. Not walk on eggshells or lessen what you need to say, but so you can better convey what you want to talk about. Saying “I feel” is showing what you need to say and feel less accusatory. I find it better to get what you want and need out of the conversation to keep the conversation on me. If after doing that the other person still gets angry or upset then I know I’m not being unreasonable.

Don’t Use “You Make Me Feel”

Another point to not start out. This makes it the other person’s responsibility for what you feel. So it’s their fault for making you feel bad and should be something they do to make you feel better. Now, I’m not saying that people cannot be at fault for what they do. More you need to take some responsibility for what’s going on, whether it’s your emotional reaction or that you still have this person in your life who keeps making you feel this way.

Choose Your Words Wisely

I find it so funny how some people think that if they are emotional about anything they think that they can say anything they want and get a pass. As the two points show up above, if you can’t blame others for what you feel, you can’t just spew whatever you are feeling on others. The whole point is to resolve something. Whether to fix how a relationship is going, work through the emotions, or just emotional support. There should still be some respect in there.

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